Mehndi Rasam

Mehndi ceremony in Indian Weddings

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Mehndi ceremony is yet another traditional yet exciting pre wedding ceremony. In Indian weddings, a lot of emphasis is given on customs and rituals and the same is reflected in the Mehndi rasam before marriage. Mehndi ceremony has become such an integral part of the wedding ceremony that it cannot be imagined without it. Furthermore, Mehndi is one of the sixteen adornments of the bride and her beauty is incomplete without it. Mehndi ceremony usually takes place just before marriage. According to the ritual, the bride does not step out of the house after this ceremony. Mehndi ceremony is essentially organized by the family of the bride and is usually a private affair which takes place in the presence of friends, relatives and family members. However, the scale of the ceremony depends upon individual choice. Some people celebrate it with great pomp and show.

 

Historical Background

Mehndi is one of the oldest forms of body art conceived by man. The Hindi and Arabic word Mehendi is derived from a Sanskrit word ‘mendhika’ which referred to the henna plant itself. Reference to uses of henna can be traced back to the Bronze ages. In the bible, henna is referred to a Camphire. In and around the Indian subcontinent, henna has been used as a cosmetic even before Vedic ages. India is considered as the source from where the body art traditions with henna spread to different parts of the world like Egypt, Asia Minor and the Middle East. References of henna during the mummification process of Pharaohs as well as anecdotes of the famous queen Cleopatra using henna to paint her body are well-known in history. Prophet Muhammad is known to use henna paste to color his graying beard and was known to advocate use of henna to others as well. Use of henna is considered immensely auspicious in many traditions around the world, especially within Hindus, who would consider Mehndi part of the customary 16 adornments or Solah Shringaar.

 

Henna

Henna (Botanical name: Lawsonia inermis) is a small shrub-like plant, found in tropical climates of Indian sub-continent, Malaysia, Africa, Middle Eastern countries. The leaves and branches produce a red-orange dye known as Lawsone that is responsible for imparting the characteristic color when bound with protein molecules of the upper skin layer. The plant is commercially cultivated in Rajasthan, Punjab, Gujarat and parts of Madhya Pradesh.
Preparation of Henna Paste
Traditionally, the Mehndi paste is made from dried powdered henna leaves. The leaves are dried in sun, ground and sieved to obtain a fine mossy green powder, which is then combined with water, lemon juice, drops of eucalyptus oil, and mixed till a smooth paste is obtained. The paste is soaked overnight for maximum infusion and then poured inside a plastic cone. Smaller cones are preferred as it affords easier application.

 

Application

The tips of the cones are cut according to the preferred thickness of the lines needed. The cones are squeezed lightly to ensure smooth, continuous flow of Mehndi. Application is generally started from forearms, gradually moving down the hand, ending in the fingertips.

Design Trends

Gone are the days when certain aunties and sisters were in demand around the neighborhood for their expertise in Mehndi designs. Now Mehndi ceremony centers around professional Mehendi artist who specializes in the latest trends in henna art. Traditional Indian designs include peacock motifs, floral designs, bride/groom replicas and other elements that cover every inch of the hand, forearms, feet and calves. The fingertips are generally covered in thick layers of henna paste. The idea is to adorn the bride’s body in imitation of expensive Jewelry. For those who are minimalists, they can choose Arabic designs where the Mehndi motifs are generally applied to one side of the hand and feet and do not extend to forearms or calves. Floral and paisley motifs dominate this style and the designs are generally curvy with lots of emphasis on vines. Indo-Arabic style of Mehndi fuses these two design trends into a classy, artistic genre. Latest trends in bridal henna designs is incorporation of colors in between henna motifs, addition of stones and blings, inclusion of glitters or metallic dusts. Geometric patterns and white henna designs are also in vogue today.

 

Aftercare

The henna needs to be kept on for a minimum of 4 hours for deep and uniform color. The longer the paste is kept, the deeper will be the color. The color actually intensifies depending on one’s body heat, so the henna-painted body parts can be wrapped in plastic wraps or foils to seal in the body heat. A mixture of lemon juice and sugar should be applied on the designs with a brush or light cloth at 1 hour intervals so that the dried Mehndi does not fall off and stays put ensuring better color. Another way to ensure better color development is to dry roast some cloves on a tawa and letting the hands soak up the smoke. The Mehendi should never be removed by water after it has dried and should be done by simply rubbing the hands together as the dried bits come off easily.

Mehndi Ceremony
The Ritual

The Mehendi Ceremony generally takes place the day before the wedding, in the morning. The bride and the groom’s family observe this ritual separately at their own residences. It is traditionally a women centric ceremony with the men of the family generally not participating. The outfits preferred for the ceremony are simple, in light colors, nothing too flashy. The venues are decked up with flowers and colorful draperies. The bride wears a light yellow or light green colored Lehenga or Salwar Kameez with short sleeves preferably and the groom wears Kurta Pajama also in light colors. It is not compulsory for the groom to wear Mehendi, but a little bit is applied on his hands and feet in simple dots or small designs. The ceremony also involves application of oil on the groom’s hair. The henna for the bride’s ceremony has to arrive from the groom’s side along with some other gifts like fruits, dry fruits and sweets. Women of the house assemble and the Mehndi is either applied by one of the bride’s relative or nowadays by professional Mehendi artists. Designs are more elaborate and depending on what the bride prefers, the henna is applied on the front and back of her palm, forearm, till above the elbows, and on the feet till below the knee. Elderly ladies sing traditional Mehendi songs with dholaks and other musical instruments. Women relatives of the bride also get Mehendi applied to their hands, although the designs are not as elaborate as the bridal Mehendi.

 

Popular Beliefs

The Mehendi ceremony contains within itself a host of traditional beliefs that are handed down the generations. Traditionally, somewhere within the intricate bridal Mehendi, the groom’s initial is included. In post marriage ceremonies, the groom has to look and find it out. This facilitates a nice ice-breaker for the newly wedded couple especially in case of an arranged marriage. It is also said that the darker the color of the Mehendi, the more love the bride will receive at her in-laws and especially from her husband. The longevity of the color of Mehendi has special significance as well. In older days when arranged marriages were predominant, the bride retaining her Mehendi while visiting her parents’ house after the wedding signaled her mother that the in-laws were considerate and caring.

Bridal Mehndi
Significance

Use of Mehendi in a pre-wedding ritual is not just cosmetic but has deep underlying scientific reasons behind it. Henna is known for its cooling properties and is supposed to calm the bride’s nerves when applied to her hands and feet.
Indian weddings comprise of a host of pre and post wedding rituals that extend the happy occasion through days before and after the actual wedding day. These colorful events bring the whole family together, even from far off places. The immediate and extended families, friends and neighbors get together to celebrate the union through various time-tested rituals throughout a span of several days. The Mehndi Ceremony is one such event that is an indispensible part of the wedding celebrations. Mehndi Ceremony generally refers to application of a henna paste in elaborate intricate designs on the bride’s hands and feet. An immensely colorful event, with lots of singing and dance performances involved, the Mehendi ceremony officially kicks off the wedding festivities in full gear.
This ritual is not only part of Hindu weddings in Northern and Eastern India but also a part of the wedding rituals among Indian Muslims. The ceremony is observed in countries adjoining India like Pakistan and Nepal, as well as in several Arab countries in the Middle East.
Although, the ritual was predominantly observed in parts of northern India, Rajasthan, Gujarat, Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, Madhya Pradesh and Punjab, the trend has gained popularity all over India. More and more cultures are embracing the idea of Mehendi Ceremony as a pre-wedding ritual mainly due to the aesthetics involved. The ceremony has become a symbol of grandeur, fun and festivities, and excuse for some major pre-wedding girl bonding.

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Things that happen only at Indian weddings

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The Horse becomes the best man’s friend: The weddings is usually held at the brides home or a wedding hall. The arrival of the Groom is an important and fun-filled event. The groom dressed in his wedding attire leaves his home to the wedding venue on a decorated ‘ghodi” (Horse) our wedding event management can help to organise the band, the ghodi, etc. to give you a great and memorable Experience.

Joota Chupai: A common ritual in North India, the Groom’s Saalis (sister-in-law) hide the Groom’s footwear during the pheras. In exchange for the shoes the Saalis demand an amount of money which can be quite a bomb.

The Bollywood Touch: Indian weddings are not really Indian if the Bollywood flavour is missing the close relatives and cousins even hire professional choreographers to perfect their dance moves to the latest Bollywood Songs. Our wedding Event Management company gives you the best and top choreographers for a memorable experience .

Food, food and more food: You know what’s the best thing about Weddings? The yummy mouth watering delicacies that can only be served at a wedding and guess what? We provide you the best caterers in your budget.

Emotions on a switch: One minute you see the entire party laughing and making merry. The next minute when “Bidai” ceremony starts you can see tears rolling down everybody’s cheeks, a typical scene at every Indian Wedding.

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The meaning of Saath Phere: Seven Wedding Vows

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The seven vows, known as Saptapadi or Saath Phere, are performed along with Mangal pheras, which is walking around the sacred fire. Any Hindu marriage is incomplete without these vows and is deemed complete once they are conducted. On the day of the wedding the bride and the groom sit under the Mandap or the scared canopy for this ritual. The sacred fire is lighted along with the customary Home puja done by the priests. The corners of bride’s saree and the groom’s Uttariya are tied in a sacred knot by the priest. They are then asked to stand up and take the seven ‘Pheras’ or circumambulations around the sacred fire, all the while uttering a different promise with each Phera. The bride is seated towards left of the groom before the Pheras, while towards the right after they are complete. The Seven Vows along with the Saath Phere are the most important ritual in a Hindu Wedding as it sanctifies the union and affords social recognition to the marriage. This is evident from the fact that when love marriages performed in temple, without a social gathering, marking the holy priest and the Almighty as the only witness, they only consist of seven vows or Saath phere around the fire.

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The Seven Vows

The Saath Phere of marriage are described as follows:

For the First Vow, the Groom promises: “om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman” meaning ‘You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish you and provide welfare and happiness for you and our children’. The bride complies in return:“dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”‘ I am responsible for the home and all household, food and finance responsibilities’. Concisely, the bride and groom promise each other prosperity by fulfilling their respective roles in their lives.

For the Second Vow the groom says: “om oorje jara dastayaha”, meaning ‘Together we will protect our house and children’. The Bride in return promises “kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”, which translates as ‘I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice in your happiness. In return, you will love me solely’.

During the Third Vow, the Groom says, “om rayas santu joradastayaha” by which he means ‘May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the education of our children and may our children live long.’ In return the Bride promises, “tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”, meaning ‘I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to remain chaste’.

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During the Fourth Vow, the Groom declares “om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha” by which he means ‘You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children’ In return for this promise, the Bride says “lalayami cha pade vadet”, by which she means, ‘I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please you in every way I can’.

For the Fifth Vow, the Groom says, “om prajabhyaha santu jaradastayaha”, which means ‘You are my best friend, and staunchest well-wisher. You have come into my life, enriching it. God bless you’. To this the Bride says, “arte arba sapade vadet” or ‘I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will trust and honor you, and will strive to fulfill all your wishes’.

During the Sixth Vow, the Groom asks, “Rutubhyah shat padi bhava” which means ‘Now that you have taken six steps with me, you have filled my heart with immense happiness. Will you do the kindness of filling my heart with happiness like this for all times?’ to this the Bride replies, “yajna hom shashthe vacho vadet” meaning ‘I will always be by your side’.

For the Last and Seventh Vow, the Groom says “Om sakhi jaradastayahga”, by which he proclaims ‘We are now husband and wife, and are one. You are mine and I am yours for eternity.’ The Bride accepts this proclamation and says “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade”, which means ‘As God is witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honor and cherish each other forever.’

Saath Phere

Significance

The Saath Phere form the center of any Wedding ceremony. The words are uttered by the couple as an expression of their future intentions as well as promises they wish to uphold in their upcoming married life. The vows cover the generally accepted do’s and don’ts of a successful married life. So, they cover almost everything; from individual roles to the promise of putting each other’s happiness first. They promise to bear the responsibility of rearing a family together and do right by their children. The promise is to enter the union as equals, as friends rather than submitting to some age old defined roles. Not just for the Hindus, during a Vedic wedding ceremony, but in every other culture, wedding vows outline the same goals – lifelong commitment, devotion and mutual respect. Marriage is a bond that is everlasting and all these vows reinforce the couple’s intent to stay together through thick and thin of life, till death separate them part.

 

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